Flirt a woman into bed? What you need to know!

So you met a woman on a dating site or in an everyday situation?

Congratulations, you’re already one step closer to your goal. But how do you proceed now, and how do you keep from ending up in the dreaded friend zone again? (Or having just one date and then nothing?)

Before we get into tactics and tricks, we should first ask ourselves the most important question: What actually makes a man sexually attractive?

Is it a fast car and a fancy penthouse that make women weak in the knees? Material things can be an advantage, especially for casual sex. But they aren’t everything that makes a man sexually attractive – not by a long shot!

Women want to be conquered and feel that the man is interested in them. Men with a sense of humor are considered particularly attractive and score points by making their counterpart laugh. Even if it’s only an erotic adventure, women want a man who responds to their wishes.

But be careful: You should also always make sure not to blindly follow, otherwise you can quickly seem uninteresting. A self-confident appearance shows that you are a man worth knowing. It’s not just the men with quick responses or expensive watches. Grooming and personal hygiene should be a matter of course.

In fact, humor, intelligence and a compelling demeanor make a man much more sexually attractive than luxury cars and expensive apartments.

Okay, now we know what it takes to score with ladies. Be the man who stands out from the crowd and refrains from putting on airs. To open the door to the bedroom, you need to be charming, respectful and funny.

Now that we’ve established that you, too, can flirt a woman into bed, we still need to address the following points and questions:

• Where do women look for men for an affair or a one-night stand?
• How do women looking for a one-night stand behave?
• And the easiest way to pick them up!

Ready to go out on the prowl? Okay, let's do it!

Where do women look for men for an affair or a one-night stand?

Women who are looking for a no-strings-attached adventure are not likely to find you on eHarmony or Academic Singles. These are dating sites where members are looking for their next love, not their next playmate. But fortunately, dating platforms aren’t just all about romantic relationships. Numerous niche sites have emerged over time that focus entirely on enabling casual dating.

What exactly does that mean?

On so-called casual dating sites like C-Date, you’ll find men and women specifically looking for erotic meetings. Many of the members are even in a relationship, but are dissatisfied with their current sex life. The solution: searching online discreetly for flings, affairs and one-night stands.

On these platforms, it’s not about exchanging information about one's hobbies and leisure activities. The focus is solely on sexual preferences and the goal of arranging an uncomplicated sex meeting.

In contrast to searching in everyday life, the decisive advantage here is that you know directly that these women are interested in hook ups. If you approach a woman in a bar or in a night club, you never know whether her boyfriend might be looming over you in the next moment. That's why we can recommend platforms like C-Date and BeNaughty for sex dates.

On these websites you don't have to worry –  women here are specifically looking for their fun. And you are also spared making unpleasant acquaintance with their partners. Another advantage: the whole thing works easily and comfortably from your couch – much more convenient!

Okay, now we know that such platforms exist. But...

How do women looking for a one-night stand behave?

First things first: women are less likely than men to get involved in a one-night stand and often even regret it afterwards. This was the result of a survey conducted by Durham University in which 1,743 men and women were asked about their experiences. Only just over 50 percent of the women surveyed said they enjoyed the one-night stand and did not regret it afterwards. By comparison, among men it was 80 percent who chalked up the one-night stand experience as a success.

But how can you tell that a woman is ready for an uncomplicated night of fun?

Women have sexual needs too, don’t forget it. And just like men, ladies show it when they're up for more than just that drink in a bar. However, they are more subtle about it and don't give out compliments as often. While men talk, women let small actions speak. Her body language is an important indicator here and offers information about whether she is open to a hot night. Small and fleeting touches or laughing at your jokes are clear signs that she is attracted to you. Once she actively seeks physical contact with you, she is signalling to you that she finds you attractive.

Even within a conversation, there can be many signs that she is hoping for more from the evening. Sex has long ceased to be a taboo subject and is often brought up on dates. She'll tell you more about her preferences on her own, or even when she last climaxed. Keep your ears open, because there are probably little messages hidden here that you should take note of.

Pay close attention to facial expressions, gestures and statements. Ideally, she will take the initiative and even ask you what you’re doing the rest of the evening.

And the easiest way to pick them up!

Now that we know that there are women who are interested in one-night stands, the most important question is: How do you pick up women for a hot night?

The most important thing is that you treat her with respect. No woman wants to hear compliments about her "hot ass." Such statements are rather degrading and only reduce your chances of being allowed to touch her later in the evening.

A self-confident appearance is a true advantage and should be built up quickly if you don’t naturally have it. If you approach a woman wagging your tail like a dachshund, you will hardly be able to convince her. It's best to sound out the situation first. For example, if you are in a bar, smile at the women and wait for their reaction. If it comes to a conversation, you’re already halfway there and should keep a cool head. Many men make the mistake of being "desperate," which they radiate like a neon sign, or deliver an exaggerated show of their masculinity. Be yourself and realize that she seems to be interested in you. Or else why would she have smiled back?

Try to establish a personal connection from the beginning and tell her something about yourself. Don’t tell her your entire life story and overwhelm her with information. But if you are open, it increases the chances that she will open up, herself, and you two will meet on a trustworthy level. Women are also picky about a one-night stand and don't get into bed with just anyone. But if you manage to touch her on a personal level, you already have the first foot in the bedroom door.

You may already be imagining the two of you kissing passionately and having a night of ecstasy. But that's no reason to show it to her up front. Women find it attractive when a man makes it seem like he doesn't have sex on his mind. The more comfortable and secure a woman feels with you, the more likely she is to feel sexual attraction.

In conclusion

Yes, they do exist: Women who are looking for a one-night stand. But they are also more selective than men and do not jump in the sheets with just any man. Whether on dating sites or in everyday situations – to get a woman into bed, you have to stand out from the crowd. You don't need a big sports car or a luxurious apartment to win her over. Humor, openness and a healthy self-confidence are the recipe for success.

Trust also plays an important role for many women in a one-night stand. Therefore, it is especially important to show her interest and make her feel comfortable with you. Give her the feeling of security, even if it's just for one night. You don't have to be an Adonis or throw around status symbols to get women into bed. All it takes is an eye for women who match you.